The times I've been with a guy, I was the one who got off second. And one time, a dude busted twice before I did once. Not sure what was. I wasnt really attracted to him and I had some alone time the night before so that probs had something to do with it.
But is it good to last long? Or is it better just be over and done with it? haha
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I don't think it really matter people differ. It depends on how you feel about it. Sometimes it's nice to just get it done and over with. While other times it's nice to take your time and enjoy it. That reminds me of the first time I was with this one guy and in like 15 minutes we were both able to get each other off twice each.
ReplyDeleteguess it depends I've had both, like when I'm not that into it definitely takes a long time (and once not at all lol) so I hear you on that one. with dudes I don't think it would really matter cuz you can just keep fooling around. Different from being with a chick cuz if you bust early her fun is pretty much done hahah. oh and I dont think #4 was TMI, really liked hearing ppl's answers I was curious as well!
ReplyDeleteSocrkid: That's quite a compliment, the guy came twice with you -- you must be some hot stuff!
ReplyDeleteLike others said, it depends on the guy and situation, so there's no right answer, it's conditional on the circumstances. But generally if you are into the other guy, you want to make it last longer for you and him.
No right or wrong, dude. It's what makes you both feel good.
ReplyDeleteMan I think the important thing is just that you cum, LOL....be a total bummer if for some reason one of you didn't cum at all! But I think it kinda sucks to pop it off to quick!
ReplyDeleteLike everyone else has said, no right or wrong. I last a LONG time before I get off, but candidly I'm psychologically a little stuck. The position of my body and how I am being stimulated is what really causes me to climax. I would advise any guy to vary your sexual activities, doing something different each time, so that you are not dependent upon any one way of getting off.
ReplyDeleteHaha, nice question...
ReplyDeleteI agree both can be good (or bad...) It al depends on the 'situation' you're in and what you were looking for. Sometimes you're in for a quickie, sometimes you wanne take your time and enjoy every single touch or stroke or whatever and wish it lasts forever till you get off.
About the hookup you're talking about, I'm definitely thinking it was due to the fact that you weren't attracted to him. He on the other hand was totaly into you cumming twice I guess ;-) For me sex is half physical stimulation but the other half is mental/psychological stimulation or even imagination. If you're for some reason not totally comfortable while having sex, maybe because you're a little nervous or uneasy with the guy, it's gonna take longer.
I remember my first hookup (it was in a tent on the beach lol) I thought I would last forever and the guy might have had some cramps in his hands and cheekbones lol. I really thought he was cute and all, but the fear of getting caught in that tent, and me not being so comfortable with the whole hookup idea was why it went that way I guess. It's said adrenaline is an erection-killer. And maybe the problem with hookups is the lack of a little bit love on top of the lust.
Sometimes with my bf I last (too) long too, mostly when I'm exhausted (but horny!) or stressed. But sometimes I get off in a few seconds... it's all in the head I guess. So don't stress about that!
It's better to last. If you're enjoying the connection, why not? Most guys who cum quickly would rather be able to stretch things out.
ReplyDeleteFor those who are plagued with premature ejaculation, it might help to down half a Viagra tablet. Works for me every time.
Beating Premature Ejaculation is actually a very simple 3 step process.
ReplyDeleteStep 1 - Mental control... believe it or not, the thoughts running through your head during sex make a huge difference to how long you can last. With a little guidance, you'll learn how to focus on the good stuff and still last way longer than you can now.
Step 2 - Hormone regulation... as we mentioned, understanding the actual process of ejaculation will help you get a long way to sustaining your lovemaking. And once you understand it, you'll know how to regulate the exact hormones that cause you to climax, so you'll automatically last longer...
Step 3 - Physical control... lastly, there are a handful of things that are guaranteed to make you climax way sooner than you want to. If you know what they are, you can regulate or eliminate them, and suddenly the whole thing is completely under your control.
A combination of these 3 factors can make huge improvements in your lovemaking. In fact, it's not unusual to see an instant improvement once you've gotten even just a very basic understanding.