Sunday, October 16, 2011

coming out 101

This is my 101st post and its also the one year anniversary since coming out to my first person. I cant even believe how far I've come within the year since telling my roommate. Its crazy to even think about the times before anyone knowing. Now, I'm out to 13 people total and I'm pretty content with that. It feels good to know things haven't changed one bit since tellin my first person. I've debated whether or not to tell some more teammates. I kind of just want to gain all the respect possible before telling any more. That means by being a leader on the team in my mind. I scored another goal so thats two for the season but still no where near how many I should have by now. Especially compared to my numbers from freshman and sophomore year. We still got some games left though to change all that so we'll see what happens.

And for some advice I thought I was share for anyone struggling to come out or even thinking about coming out. Do it when you feel right and dont rush it. You have time and there is no time limit to when you need to tell someone. Also, from my experiences, things dont change no matter how bad you think someone will take it. Yeah it might take time for someone to adjust too it, but in the end, people will come around and still be with you...

Well thats about it, just goin out with some guys to celebrate our birthdays and get a drink (legally) haha take it easy everyone!
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11 comments:

  1. drewOctober 16, 2011 at 5:39 PM

    Enjoyed coming along for the ride over the last year. Happy 21st Birthday!!!

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  2. AnonymousOctober 16, 2011 at 8:13 PM

    Smart move. Take care!

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  3. AnonymousOctober 16, 2011 at 8:23 PM

    Nice sincere post. Thanks. I've enjoyed the ride too!

    Jack.

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  4. fan of caseyOctober 16, 2011 at 10:02 PM

    Socrkid: What a difference a year makes. You are happier, more focused, and more confident. Well done! Before you were so unsure and now you are offering advice and being an example to others.

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  5. TBOctober 17, 2011 at 2:41 AM

    man u scored?!?! sick! congrats buddy. well deserved. so funny to think how its been a year already!

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  6. RobertOctober 17, 2011 at 4:06 PM

    Very good advice! Your coming out experience is like it is for most people -- the thing that changes is that you are not splitting yourself between who you are and who you think others want you to be. Life is a lot easier that way!

    Coming out is particularly hard for GLBT people. Straight people "come out" all the time in subtle ways. For example, a guy can say "My girlfriend and I went to the movies on Saturday," and people will assume that he is in a heterosexual relationship. For me, it was always easier to bring up the subject of sexuality by saying "Let me introduce you to my partner, Richard," and I could come out to people in polite company that way.

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  7. XOctober 17, 2011 at 7:03 PM

    Congrats, kiddo

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  8. AnonymousOctober 18, 2011 at 10:49 AM

    Sweet blog bro. Congrats on all ur hard work, on the blog and ur journey.

    Peace out

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  9. Average gay dudeOctober 18, 2011 at 11:16 AM

    Jeez it's already been a year!? You've grown so much in a great way. Proud of you and can't wait to see where life takes you within the next year

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  10. KevinOctober 20, 2011 at 5:43 AM

    Congrats on the goal!Really proud of you and the way you're doing your thing, whether it's for soccer, the blog or your coming out.

    I think your further coming out will go well. Maybe your reaching the point where you stop counting people you're out to. As more people know about you, they'll talk about it to each other without you're around, maybe telling more people 'by the way'. You can't come out to everyone personally, and you don't have to neither. When you're ready for it you can give your 'buddies who know' a sign they don't have to keep it to themselves anymore. Or you could tell them talking/joking/asking about it to you with other friends around isn't a problem. At least that's what I did. You've got some really good roomies/teammates/parents/friends who know and support you, so I think you can trust them they will mention it in a good way, to the right people and at an approporiate time,... I don't think they'll be yelling it through the hallway ;)

    Hope you had a blast with the birthday drinks. As a Belgian guy it keeps surprising me you guys in the US have to wait till 21! We can order drinks starting from 16 officially, but when I started going out to parties at the local youthclub when I was 14, ordering beer was no problem at all. So Belgium rules at least for one thing :)

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  11. socrkid17October 24, 2011 at 9:52 PM

    thanks for all the birthday wishes!! and thanks for reading about my boring life haha

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