So finals week is over and Im finally back home. I have been waiting to be home since I left for school lol. I have spent some quality mom-son time since not many of my friends are home yet. We have been to the malls the past 3 days for Christmas shopping and trying to get last minute gifts. Dont get me wrong, I love spending time with her and I'm so glad I'm home to be with her, but almost every conversation we have is about me and girls. She asked me when I was planning on getting married the other day!! Like I feel like I would hurt her so much if I came out to her. Then we went into a baby store cause she had to a buy gift for a friend, but she was picking out clothes and was saying she cant wait to see how my babies would be dressed. I mean I have three other siblings so my mom can have plenty of grandchildren but I guess she cant really count on me for them.
I have been debating whether or not to tell her. I'm getting to the point of if she will know later on, why not know now. I just don't want to cause any problems during this time of the year but its just really annoying having her ask me about girls every day.
And got a question for yall, would it be acceptable to write a letter to her to tell her? I just feel like if I was to tell her face-to-face, I wouldn't be able to get it all out.
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I guess everyone will have their own opinion on this but I would consider it if it was me. When you write a letter or email you can put your case out there without interruption. It gives you the chance to be more in depth. I also think it gives her a chance to read and digest what you have conveyed to her. I think I would explain why you chose this medium, such as you feeling like you couldn't get it all out. I think she would understand. I would bring up her mentioning kids and how that embarrasses you because you don't want to disappoint her. I think it wold work, but that is just me. Good luck with which ever way and when you decide to do it.
ReplyDeleteI'd have to say talking in person would be best, but maybe an email or letter to preface that it would be something important to you would set the stage. She'd be prepared for a sincere discussion, and you may get some feedback beforehand to give you an idea how she may react - or how you could phrase what you want to say. Just my thought. I hope that helps - and that everything will go well. Happy Holidays to you bud!
ReplyDeleteIf you think her initial reaction might not be ideal, a letter might be a good idea.
ReplyDeleteI'm a parent and I want my kids to be happy and successful. But if they ever have news share that they fear I won't take well, a letter could be a good thing. Why? Because I can read it in private and react on my own. Then, once I have time to digest the news and collect myself I can be the positive, supportive parent I want to be when we're face to face.
If a letter makes it easier for you then yes, go that route. Laying the groundwork that you have something serious that may be hard to say in person so you wrote a letter gives her some warning so that she isn't blown away. I hope that it goes well.
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ReplyDeleteyea dude I know exactly what you mean about your mom talking about you having kids and shit...
ReplyDeleteMy mom used to talk about it all the time before I came out to her. gets annoying eh
I still think that for my mom the hardest thing about me being gay is the whole no kids thing.
I came out to my mom via phone. I think it worked out as well as any other way would have.
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